Marriage...

[CoppellCowboy57]

Hey older guys...how old were you when you got married, how long were you with your wife before you got married, what sacrifises did you make?

[dragons08]

somebody must be in love...

[Reaganrattler07]

Ah, D08, don't shoot him down like that...I'd say late twenties, all throughout thirties and early forties....oh, and CC57 it's "fence"

[CoppellCowboy57]

somebody must be in love...

SHUT UP AM NOT *looks around*

[dragons08]

Ah, D08, don't shoot him down like that...I'd say late twenties, all throughout thirties and early forties....oh, and CC57 it's "fence"
i wasnt shooting him down, i was doing the "ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" thing ya know like when you find something out and your like "ohhhhh" its fun stuff

[Reaganrattler07]

i wasnt shooting him down, i was doing the "ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" thing ya know like when you find something out and your like "ohhhhh" its fun stuff

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhh

:p

[GoOwls]

Hey older guys...how old were you when you got married, how long were you with your wife before you got married, what sacrifises did you make?

I got married at 21 after dating for 1 1/2 years and was too young and only thought I knew her. I wanted to think I knew her. I was wrong. We were married for 9 years, had 3 kids and one day she said she wanted to "find" herself. We got divorced and I raised the 3 kids as a single parent.

I threw myself into raising the kids and forgot about women. I became "SuperDadMom".

At 35, I re-met a woman I had worked with in my early twenties and respected her for being the woman and mother she was, even though her husband was cheating on her and mentally and physically abusing her (she's 5'10" and quite formidable and twice punched him out in self defense, it worked on her mind more that anything as her kids saw his actions, but he still abused her). Anyway, I knew we were good friends back then and we became friends again, first, then nature took over later.

She is my soulmate and best friend and I don't even think about other women, I wouldn't jeopardize what I have. I credit it to knowing each other well, as friends, first. The sex thing passes and those relationships will not last. If you like each other, really like each other, the other stuff will take care of itself. You have to find someone who you will be happy sitting on a porch with long after you've become old and ugly and all the heat has gone.

The sacrifices are just one to make it work.

Be willing to do whatever is necessary to make that person happy. If it means missing a game you want to see or watch sometimes, you do it, as long as the other person doesn't abuse that gift you give them and gives that gift back to you in kind.

I make most all the games I want to see, I get to watch most of the games I want to watch. That small sacrifice lets the other person know you care and reaffirms their belief that they are the most important thing in your life.

That small sacrifice is also helped by having Tevo so I can record the game and watch it when she goes to sleep. Improvisation is the key to "your" happiness. :)

[GoOwls]

I got married at 21 after dating for 1 1/2 years and was too young and only thought I knew her. I wanted to think I knew her. I was wrong. We were married for 9 years, had 3 kids and one day she said she wanted to "find" herself. We got divorced and I raised the 3 kids as a single parent.

I threw myself into raising the kids and forgot about women. I became "SuperDadMom".

At 35, I re-met a woman I had worked with in my early twenties and respected her for being the woman and mother she was, even though her husband was cheating on her and mentally and physically abusing her (she's 5'10" and quite formidable and twice punched him out in self defense, it worked on her mind more that anything as her kids saw his actions, but he still abused her). Anyway, I knew we were good friends back then and we became friends again, first, then nature took over later.

She is my soulmate and best friend and I don't even think about other women, I wouldn't jeopardize what I have. I credit it to knowing each other well, as friends, first. The sex thing passes and those relationships will not last. If you like each other, really like each other, the other stuff will take care of itself. You have to find someone who you will be happy sitting on a porch with long after you've become old and ugly and all the heat has gone.

The sacrifices are just one to make it work.

Be willing to do whatever is necessary to make that person happy. If it means missing a game you want to see or watch sometimes, you do it, as long as the other person doesn't abuse that gift you give them and gives that gift back to you in kind.

I make most all the games I want to see, I get to watch most of the games I want to watch. That small sacrifice lets the other person know you care and reaffirms their belief that they are the most important thing in your life.

That small sacrifice is also helped by having Tevo so I can record the game and watch it when she goes to sleep. Improvisation is the key to "your" happiness. :)

BTW, I'm 47 now.

[wide-e-wide]

CC57...don't do it man. Especially for a guy that is about to go in the military. DON'T DO IT! You'll be one of those poor saps glued to a pay phone...while all your buddies are going out on liberty. It rarely works...wait until you have at least 2 years in before you even whisper that word...marriage.

[lonny23]

CC57...don't do it man. Especially for a guy that is about to go in the military. DON'T DO IT! You'll be one of those poor saps glued to a pay phone...while all your buddies are going out on liberty. It rarely works...wait until you have at least 2 years in before you even whisper that word...marriage.
Wide is right. Getting married young is one thing, but being in the military is another thing. When you have to deploy, your wife will want somebody and you won't be there. She might be the type to not look elsewhere and cheat, but a lot of women can't do it. That's why they give Air Force spouses gifts when the military member retires. You have to spend time away from each other and not everybody can do it. Your wife might have to do a lot to be a mother and father to the kids if you have any.

If you KNOW this is the right person go ahead and do it. She MUST know what you'll deal with in the Marines. There are nights alone, hard hours, weird schedules, and a lot of stress in the job.

My wife couldn't understand me needing to work long hours and thought I could just be at her beck and call for anything she wanted or wanted to do. I was 27 (1998) when we got married and I only knew her for a few months. She had traits I was loking for and praying for, but as a Korean, I didn't know all the bad traits she had. She ran away with the girls in 2003 the week after I got back from Afghanistan and we haven't lived together since then.

[wide-e-wide]

And unfortunately there are eleventy billion stories just like Lonny's...I used to go down the pier and see Sailor's wives crying and holding babies as the ships were pulling out....Later that night I would go to the club and see those same women drinking and dancing with other men. It's sad ...but true. It takes a different type of woman to survive deployments...the ones that can handle it are complete angels and should be applauded...but there are some that act like they can...but refuse to ...when it comes down to it.

[wide's BETTER half]

I'm not one of the older guys but I am a woman and we always have to put our two cents in :) ...

Ya know...this is a time when I'll say my husband is right. :eek: You've got a lot facing you and the last thing you need is some woman weakening your mind. If it's the real thing then she'll still be there when the time is better. Not to mention your age. I don't know exactly how old you are but am assuming you're fairly young. Let me stress what's been touched on in another reply. You'll change a lot over the next few years (and more esp you considering what's in your near future) and you, and her, will more than likely be a lot different a few years down the road. I know tons of people that want one thing out of life and one certain type of person at ages say 18-22 but then by the time they're 25-28 have different goals and ideas. I would never recommend anyone getting married before the age of at least 24! Yes, there are those stories of people getting married young and living happily ever after but unfortunately those are one in a million these days. Just give it tons and tons of thought if you're considering it. It's a HUGE decision that all too often people take too lightly.

[pack0808]

we married after we both graduated from college i was 25 and she was 24 and now we have 4 little boys. :eek: We started dating when she was a senior at LHS and i was at a local juco playing ball. We met at a huge party at my parents house by the way. LOL We have been off and on since both going our own ways in college but we somehow made it through and got married. I am 31 now and she is 30. Now, I want to kill her half of the time and she wants to kill me 99 percent of the time so the house is always full of excitement when you add the 4 kids along with death threats. LOL ;) My house is never boring!! Oh the married life. I did not realize how good i had it back when i was in school living with my parents and they were paying all of my bills. Oh i miss those days. LOL

[ktchamp97]

CC57,

I guess since I'm replying to this thread, I've entered 'older guy' status...lol.

I'll be just about a week past my 26th birthday when I get married. We've been together for 8 years, and believe it or not, we've NEVER been 'broken up' or anything like that. I knew I wanted to marry her after about 3 months, but we both knew it wouldn't be a smart thing to do at the time. We were so sure that we'd always be together, why rush it?

We went to separate colleges, which in the long run was a tremendous blessing, because we got to do our own thing and grow on our own while still taking care of all of our school work. We both grew up ALOT in those 4.5 years. There were tough times, for sure, but we made it.

We both graduated in the Fall '02. So, by then it was time to get married right? Well, we both decided that we needed to get settled first and go from there...plus after college I was dead-*** broke and couldn't afford the ring she soooo deserved for all she meant to me and all she did for me...so we decided to wait. She got a job right away and I was unemployed for 6 months (it was a HORRIBLE job market at the time).

I finally got some full-time work and eventually caught a break allowing me to use my engineering degree and I finally had enough to get her that ring in March. I proposed at the top of the "Lost Mines Trail" in Big Bend at about 6,000'. It was most definitely worth the wait.

We made sacrifices along the way, for sure, but it never seemed like that much of a burden because we knew why we were doing things the way we were.

My only advice is that there is no need to rush things. You should carefully examine, with her preferably, the impacts of getting married. It should be something you are both TOTALLY and willingly ready to do. If you're at that point and you REALLY know the girl...I mean you know her as well as you know yourself, then more power to you. Just really consider the implications...not that they're all bad by any means...just think ahead. If you're meant to be together, that stuff will work out on its own.

[Garland02]

We started dating at 16, lived together at 18, and married at 19. Our 25th anniversary is next June. We are the exception rather than the rule, most people that I have known that married as young as we did, didn't stay together. It was not as unusual back then to get married at 19. My wife was very persuasive back then, or maybe I just didn't always think with the right head. I will advise my kids to wait until they are older than we were, since so many marraiges end in divorce these days. We are/were very determined people, we have accomplished most everything we ever set out to accomplish, and have thrown ourselves pretty much into our kids lives the last 21+ years. It has worked for us, but it doesn't for most. Women can be persuasive, and can catch you at a moment where you aren't thinking straight, and get you to commit to something without really weighing the pros and cons. You aren't married now, so I think this is something you need to decide for yourself, and try not to let her influence you. If you have already enlisted, and you are going to be away for awhile....I would reason with her to wait until you are back, if she is the right one, she will still be there.

[RedRage00]

CC57,

I guess since I'm replying to this thread, I've entered 'older guy' status...lol.

I'll be just about a week past my 26th birthday when I get married. We've been together for 8 years, and believe it or not, we've NEVER been 'broken up' or anything like that. I knew I wanted to marry her after about 3 months, but we both knew it wouldn't be a smart thing to do at the time. We were so sure that we'd always be together, why rush it?

We went to separate colleges, which in the long run was a tremendous blessing, because we got to do our own thing and grow on our own while still taking care of all of our school work. We both grew up ALOT in those 4.5 years. There were tough times, for sure, but we made it.

We both graduated in the Fall '02. So, by then it was time to get married right? Well, we both decided that we needed to get settled first and go from there...plus after college I was dead-*** broke and couldn't afford the ring she soooo deserved for all she meant to me and all she did for me...so we decided to wait. She got a job right away and I was unemployed for 6 months (it was a HORRIBLE job market at the time).

I finally got some full-time work and eventually caught a break allowing me to use my engineering degree and I finally had enough to get her that ring in March. I proposed at the top of the "Lost Mines Trail" in Big Bend at about 6,000'. It was most definitely worth the wait.

We made sacrifices along the way, for sure, but it never seemed like that much of a burden because we knew why we were doing things the way we were.

My only advice is that there is no need to rush things. You should carefully examine, with her preferably, the impacts of getting married. It should be something you are both TOTALLY and willingly ready to do. If you're at that point and you REALLY know the girl...I mean you know her as well as you know yourself, then more power to you. Just really consider the implications...not that they're all bad by any means...just think ahead. If you're meant to be together, that stuff will work out on its own.

Great advice ktchamp!

[garlandowl08]

I like how everybody immediately assumes hes thinking about getting married...

[Reaganrattler07]

I guess since I'm replying to this thread, I've entered 'older guy' status...lol.


Nah, me and D08 replied....for all we know you could be 17! ;)

[c-lisle]

Ask God for guidance, He is never wrong.....unlike all of us. I have been married for 1.5 years and just had my first child. God has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. He will bless you too if you look to Him. Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

[CoppellCowboy57]

Im not planning on getting married. My girlfriend brought it up the other day...(for the record im 18). I had the same idea as wide, waiting two years after I get, shes told me time and time agian she wont leave me when I go to basic (which will be anytime now). I was just thinking about, stuff I guess...

[Lufkin_Class_Of_08]

if and when u get married u better invite the ole wide...u stuck up for him...he should get an invite ;)

[wide-e-wide]

Oh....Old Wide will be there...let's just hope he's stationed in San Diego when the ceremony happens....I can't go to Virginia...'ya know...old warrants and all....hahahahaha

[CoppellCowboy57]

Oh....Old Wide will be there...let's just hope he's stationed in San Diego when the ceremony happens....I can't go to Virginia...'ya know...old warrants and all....hahahahaha

When I get married its happening right here in tx, I cant imagin gettng married anywhere else...

[wide-e-wide]

then I will certainly be there my brother...
I will bring the wife and everything...
You are going to have free beer after the wedding right?
If not.....I ....ummmm...I can't make it that weekend.

[dada]

I know I'm late on this, but take your time Cowboy. You're young and you have a long way to go. Not to sound mean or anything, but 4-5 years from now, you may have forgotten about someone who is the love of your life right now. You still have the world ahead of you....enjoy it. I'm 30 and when you're 17-18 you look at 30 as OLD and the end of the world......Take your time. And i was in the military also...take it from Lonny and Wide...Being young going into the real world is hard enough...being young in the military is a little harder....now add the responsibility of Wife and possible family. Just some advice....take your time. If it's meant to be, she will be there. My girlfriend at the time was the love of my life...went I got on the plane to go to basic...she cryed, passed out, fainted...I even cried...I called and wrote her almost everyday....Now she's a crack-head...I blow at her every now and then when I pass by her corner and just shake my head....lol. I always tell people that she couldnt handle me leaving so she went to the ol reliable crack pipe. THEN I met the next love of my life...that lasted 8 years and I got my son out of it....but we are like Cats and dogs...cant get along. I have my son with me now..and the last love of my life is about to give birth to my daughter....SHE IS THE ONE....I've known her forever...we dated waaayyyy back in the day....like I say...IF IT'S MEANT TO BE....she will still be there. That's what I'm going through now.

[CoppellCowboy57]

then I will certainly be there my brother...
I will bring the wife and everything...
You are going to have free beer after the wedding right?
If not.....I ....ummmm...I can't make it that weekend.

#1 im not planning on getting married Dada4u...but maybe in a couple of years...

Wide...open bar my man, open bar...its a family rule...All events that they go to must have an open bar or else we aint going

[LoneStarProud]

If she's 6'2 220lbs and runs a sub 4.4 40yd...keep her. Good football genetics should be a top priority.

[wide-e-wide]

If she's 6'2 220lbs and runs a sub 4.4 40yd...keep her. Good football genetics should be a top priority.

hahaha
Now that was a good one. haha

[lonny23]

Ask God for guidance, He is never wrong.....unlike all of us. I have been married for 1.5 years and just had my first child. God has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. He will bless you too if you look to Him. Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.
That's real good advice.

[Reaganrattler07]

If she's 6'2 220lbs and runs a sub 4.4 40yd...keep her. Good football genetics should be a top priority.

Course we'd know who wore the pants in the family....

[dragons08]

If she's 6'2 220lbs and runs a sub 4.4 40yd...keep her. Good football genetics should be a top priority.
haha thats great

[Cujo]

If she's 6'2 220lbs and runs a sub 4.4 40yd...keep her. Good football genetics should be a top priority.
LMAO :D

I know this post is redundant, but that's the funniest thing I've read on here.

[lonny23]

Course we'd know who wore the pants in the family....
The person that makes the money!

[dragons08]

The person that makes the money!
not nesscarry, who ever is bigger strogner and meaner